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End of Week Zen

May 26, 2017

Painting of Powdered Jelly Donuts by Oriana Ingber


May 25, 2017

Last night, as I was about to barbecue some red peppers, the cover of the gas grill came off in my hands. The dinner I’d envisioned all day depended on these peppers, so I refused to be deterred. It took some awkward maneuvering to keep the lid on, but the peppers got grilled and I had a lovely meal. It was too dark to discover the problem, plus I’m pathetic at home repair. I thought about calling a handyman in the morning, but who would come over for such a minor item. With the light of day, I was determined to see what I could do, given the grill’s importance in my life. I took a deep breath, centered myself, removed the lid and noticed that a couple of screws had fallen out. Within minutes, the cover was fixed. I’m feeling single and proud right now.

It’s Even Better the 2nd Time

May 24, 2017


Illustration by Marc Johns

Look for the Helpers

May 23, 2017

This is so needed!

Via Swiss Miss

Dish Rack Protocol When You’re Single

May 22, 2017

I don’t like visual chaos, which is why my home is fairly neat. One exception is a perennially messy desk. And the other is the dish rack. The items I use everyday – coffee mug, juice glass, water bottle, paring knife, small plate, granola spoon and bowl – never get stored back into their respective spots. I don’t much see the point. And I’m wondering if this is because I live alone and there’s no one bugging me about it. Please, tell me, can you relate?

Stack of Plates with Flatware and Glasses by Carrie Mae Smith

Such is Life

May 19, 2017

It’s Friday as I write this. There have been so many ups and downs these last 7 days, starting with the loss of my dear cat, Lily, plus all the political madness. But it has ended on a decidedly up note, with an article I wrote now published at Forbes. Here’s hoping your week ends up as FINE. 

Illustration by Marc Johns

A Good Day

May 18, 2017

An article that I wrote for an online publication of PBS is today’s “Editor’s Choice.” It’s a personal and practical account of my career change after 50. There were many times along the way that I felt hopeless. And it’s a reminder (even to me) of hanging in there despite the landscape appearing dark.

Photo by KangHee Kim

Mental Health Break

May 17, 2017

Sneaker by Christoph Niemann

Lily, 1999-2017

May 16, 2017

The beautiful Lily was put to sleep last night. It was very peaceful. She had a joyous, healthy life almost until the end. 6 years ago, when I moved into my condo, I made a heartbreaking decision not to take Lily with me. She’d been an outdoor cat for 12 years, and I couldn’t bear to bring her into an apartment where she would be stuck inside all the time. I left her in loving hands where I used to live, and visited her often. On warm summer days, Lily loved to sit in the garden and at night she cooled herself beneath the car. She enjoyed long walks around the block beside the dog. She was the best sleeping companion. I spent a few hours nuzzling with her on Sunday, knowing it was our last time together. Lily taught me about love and I’ll miss her.

Photo by Miguel Torres


Is it Okay to Be Ordinary?

May 15, 2017

Today, my good friend (who is an economics professor at Princeton and recently gave birth to her 3rd child) had her OpEd published in the New York Times. She’s a wonderful person and I am supremely happy for her. But it did make me feel very ordinary. 

Illustration by Laura Odell