Linda Ronstadt on Marriage
This is from a sublime 2013 interview on Fresh Air that they replayed today (and I heard for the first time):
GROSS: (Laughter) Never been married, right?
RONSTADT: No knack for it. You know, I think that the culture supports serial monogamy. And I think I had plenty of that. And I think I was reasonably monogamous in a serial way (laughter). But I’m not a good compromiser. I think I don’t have a knack for the kind of compromise. I admire people’s marriages, and I think it’s a wonderful thing to have. But I don’t think it’s the only way to live.
I think there are many ways to live and many ways to establish intimate support in your life that can be from family or friends or a great roommate that you like. You know, it doesn’t have to be someone you’re sleeping with. I figured that out pretty early on, and that was sort of how I felt. I was trying to sing. I was never trying to get married.
Tools of the Trade
I’ve never gotten the hang of a blow dryer. There’s one lodged in the back of a bathroom drawer somewhere, but I don’t think I’ve picked it up for years. It’s a good thing I live in a warm climate. Is this one of your essential tools?
Illustration by Jean Jullien
Stay Close
In new relationships, I have memories of the first time holding a hand. It always seemed so intimate. These days, I’m holding paws with my dog.
Illustration by MDNF
Dog V Cat
I remember a first date coming over to my house, seeing my cat, and heading for the hills. Allegedly it wasn’t me, it was allergies. As far as dogs, be nice to mine, or adios.
First Date by Ivan Brunetti
End of Week Zen
Fond memories. This is practically the only food that I would eat as kid (except, of course, on packaged white bread).
Painting by Duane Keiser
Slow it down
On days when I have the most perspective, I tell myself it’s a privilege to age. Not everyone gets the chance.
Illustration by Alessandra Olanow
Barriers to Intimacy
I used to beat myself up (metaphorically speaking) for doing all these things. With hindsight, I should’ve given myself a pass.
Illustration by Olivia de Recat
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