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Linda Ronstadt on Marriage

This is from a sublime 2013 interview on Fresh Air that they replayed today (and I heard for the first time):

GROSS: (Laughter) Never been married, right?

RONSTADT: No knack for it. You know, I think that the culture supports serial monogamy. And I think I had plenty of that. And I think I was reasonably monogamous in a serial way (laughter). But I’m not a good compromiser. I think I don’t have a knack for the kind of compromise. I admire people’s marriages, and I think it’s a wonderful thing to have. But I don’t think it’s the only way to live.

I think there are many ways to live and many ways to establish intimate support in your life that can be from family or friends or a great roommate that you like. You know, it doesn’t have to be someone you’re sleeping with. I figured that out pretty early on, and that was sort of how I felt. I was trying to sing. I was never trying to get married.

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4 comments for “Linda Ronstadt on Marriage”

  1. Liz says:

    Looooove this! So wisely said, with self-awareness, no shame and such a great sense of humor. Marriage is not for
    everyone, it certainly doesn’t exclude intimacy, and not choosing it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

  2. Petra says:

    Go Linda go! Marriage =/= intimacy. Sex =/= intimacy. They CAN, but there are many ways to supportive, close relationships that do not involve the legalistic “marriage”. Of course, I think I’m preaching to the choir here.

    Liz (above) is right!

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