I first glimpsed unmarried life while watching my great aunts, Ruth and Evie, my grandmother’s single sisters who, coupled by default, became a pair. Ruthandevie. Names said in tandem, as if they were a unit, with no identity apart from that as spinster. After the family deposited them at holiday gatherings, they would sit around the table, gab and eat like the rest of us. But they were not the same. No husband, no kids. No status. Not for me. Continue reading »