During the summer, I dated a man with multiple ex-wives. At first, he refused to tell me exactly how many. A look of panic came over my face, and he responded, “You’ve NEVER been married. Who are you to talk?” Ouch. He had a point. I don’t want to be marginalized by my marriage (okay, no-marriage) history, nor should I be doing that to anyone else.
And yet, when I scan a man’s profile on a dating site, who is “never-married,” (and at least in his forties) I immediately wonder what’s wrong with him. Am I a hypocrite? And I shudder to think, is it possible they’re feeling the same way about me?