There’s that stark moment at the doctor’s office, when you’re asked to write down your “in case of emergency” contact. Are you sure, right away, how to answer, or do you shift in your chair and have to think about it?
Topping my list of things that I’ve missed out on as a single woman, is the security of knowing, without hesitation, who my safety net is. I don’t mean financially, although that sounds luxurious, too. But sometimes I ache for the security of a go-to partner, who will be there for me, no matter what. It seemed that my father was like that for my mother, and my brother appears that way for his wife. Deep down, I’m hoping that my safety net fantasy is one of those marriage myths, and that couples have their existential moments of feeling alone in the world, just like single people do.
For now, my solution is a diversified portfolio, as I look to a community of friends to count on. Who knows? Maybe it’s a smarter strategy. Maybe I’m the lucky one.