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I’m Looking For A Few Good Men
I’m about to start an experiment, and I need your support. My close friend (who is gay and a lot younger than me, but I’m hoping that’s not relevant here) met an attractive, smart and available man on Match.com. I HATE MATCH.COM. My cycles with them are depressing. Sound familiar? After exhausting my sources for fix-ups, and running out of activities where I might meet someone new, I’m stuck back at Match.com, where I barely get a response (except for the guy winking at me from Texas who looks like a felon), which chips away at my self esteem, until I swear off dating sites forever. I’ve been told by “experts” not to take it personally. (One of those experts has been happily married for 37 years. When was the last time he had to hunt for a date?) Match keeps emailing “eligible” men every week, even though I haven’t been registered for years. I can’t press the delete key fast enough. Yes. I have a lousy attitude, but I say, I’ve earned it.
Here’s where the experiment comes in. After I post this today, I’m going on Match to review all possible candidates. I’ll relax my usual age and geographic perimeters a little. (No, Texas, you’re still not eligible.) And if I find at least 3 men that I want to get in touch with, I’ll register for 6 months.
I hate Match.com. But if I rant about the experience here, it might give me stamina to survive another round.
More tomorrow.
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I simply had to respond to this. I, too, can’t stand Match.com. If I had time I would deliver a whole tirade on the subject, but I’m on a deadline and procrastinating far too much, so I’ll just say this: try chemistry.com instead. Someone recommended it to me, and although I haven’t actually gone out with anyone yet, it seems far more promising. It’s much less judgy, and the matching seems better. I’m not shopping for a wedding dress, but I have agreed to meet someone for coffee and I’m not dreading it. Baby steps. Good luck.
I hate match.com too but I think, in a way, its a good way to articulate your desire to the universe. I did it for 3 months just for that purpose and realized that my true desire is to be single!
Best luck to you with your experiment!
Good luck with your experiment!
I’ve tried Match.com, Yahoo! Personals, and singlesnet (I think that’s what it was called). All were…pretty bad.
BUT…
I have a dear friend who just got married to a man she met on eHarmony, so I think that if and when I want to date again, that’s where I’m going to go. We shall see.
Good for you! If you do it, I’ll do it!
Ah, this reawakens all my old ghosts about online dating! While I’ve started several relationships through online dating sites and have been, in that way, a “successful” online dater, I’ve collected a LOT of rejections in the form of ignored winks and emails, and those can really add up to some serious self-doubts! I’ve also noticed that it gets a lot harder the older I am. Just thinking about it makes me thankful I’m not dating at all right now! Not to be discouraging, though, the relationships I’ve had through online sites have been really good, so I always recommend that people give it a try.