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2010 Dating Update
Greg’s online dating profile, followed by his correspondence (in red, typos and all)
I am a man with midwest values who just happens to live in Los Angeles. I work in the movie/TV. industry. I have both my feet on the ground and i know who i am and what i want. I like simple things and drama is to be left for the big screen not everyday life.
I wasn’t particularly attracted to Greg’s photo (and he inconsistently capitalized the first person singular pronoun “i”) but his profile seemed nice enough, and he initiated contact, which doesn’t happen to me very often. So I dipped a toe in and asked Greg about his job.
what i do comes from the heart and i work in a very creative business- everyday is so exciting….. if you just stop and listen…….most people don’t.
Not exactly a direct answer. I changed subjects, inquiring about Christmas.
i spent christmas eve with my x sister inlaw’s family with my son. this year i decided not to buy in anymore to pressures of the holidays, i am done letting the world tell me how to live my life and all i hav to do is listen to god and my inner self. i dont believe god wants his children to hav so much pressure to enjoy the holidays.
I sense a few red flags and decide not to respond. A week later, I hear from him again.
hi how r u
Then, a minute later…
got to give a man credit for trying…….. by your lack of response ill take it as you are just not interested in me.
I feel like I need to be courteous and let him know that although I appreciate his effort, I don’t think we’re a great fit. And I wish him best of luck.
perhaps you should remember you are on a dating site, and the man as in the real world is the hunter……….. and you dont respond so perhaps you like a man to be a wimp so you can be the one who wears the pants…..
Followed immediately by the zinger:
now i know why you never married.
Greg, the guy with Midwestern values, who doesn’t like drama, is now officially blocked from contacting me.
(Image: In the Spring by painter Grant Wood, 1939)
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I had a very similar conversation with a man online just the other day. Except his name wasn’t Greg and he was in NYC.
*sigh*
I’m a big fan of online dating, but sometimes…
wow. this is hilarious, disgusting and creepy all at the same time. i never reply to the guys with the totally inarticulate/illiterate/undecipherable emails and/or profiles. It never turns out well.
Greg is a psycho.
Greg’s not a psycho, he’s a D-Bag who misrepresented himself in his profile.
The great thing about online dating is that you don’t actually have to go on a (horrendous) date to find this out. So efficient!
There’s an easy way to deal with guys like this: NEXT!
Unfortunately, your post sums up most of my experiences with online dating. Over the last seven years or so, I’ve dabbled in the online dating world with various degrees of consistancy and dedication. Even when I tried to be “easygoing” about it, I still found it created many more negative than positive feelings in me. I’ve gone back to the mantra of my 30’s – if it’s meant to be, it will happen. I’m now 48, never married, with a great life and friends, but still wishing I had that intimate someone to share it with. Sigh…..
I don’t know, kind of seems mentally imbalanced to me.
I’m going with psycho. I’m really glad I never gave him my phone number.
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There is not doubt in my mind that Greg needs professional help. And I’ve been told the best thing to do in such situations, as you did, is not respond at all.
I’ve had several religious zealots contact me. I can’t figure out what in my profile attracts them. Is it the words about being kind to others? My long hair?
The most recent guy I met online doesn’t like cheese. I discovered this when we went away for the weekend and it was a food item I’d brought to share. I also realized that weekend I wasn’t going to fall in love with him and it occurred to me what a bad sign it is not to like cheese. So that’s my new profile heading: Must like cheese. I don’t believe in god, but cheese is something I feel I can really get behind.