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A Single Woman’s Work in Progress
On Friday nights, in honor of the Sabbath, I shut down my computer. It’s a metaphor, but also literal. For about 24 hours, I stay unplugged. Well, relatively unplugged, because I cheat, and by cheating I mean, checking for messages on my iPhone or worse, on someone else’s computer that I encounter along the way. Okay. I do my best. During this time period, I don’t post on FPS, and try not to even think about it. But this past Friday night, I could not get the word LOSER out of my mind. I was obsessing about an image I’d put up a few hours earlier, and started to fret. Was I bumming readers out with my frustrated tale of unmarried life? Should I be ending each story with a smile? Please. You tell me.
Image: Silja Goetz
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I like your honesty and wouldn’t change it.
I like your blog just the way it is. I don’t think you should hold back or change who you are at all. Do not apologize or feel guilty for the way you feel!
No way. Don’t change or sugarcoat. I read your blog because it’s real.
Please don’t fret – one of the reasons I read your blog is the reassurance I get from knowing I am not alone in my feelings. These are the pricks and foibles of our existance that I don’t see addressed in any meaningful way through other media.
Be true to yourself. I love your blog the way it is.
No don’t change. It’s nice to know I am not alone in my struggles of being single. I went to my reunion alone and my ex was in my class and their with his gf. He had to balls to ask if I really wanted to attend since I was still single. (3 years since divorce). I went anyways just because he didn’t want me there.
Ditto to the aforementioned posts above but I might add that I also like the posts that end with a smile : )
I find that most posts are an affirmation or defense of single life–there’s nothing terribly sad or desperate about them. As for the post in question, there’s a sizeable and very sane club that hates reunions–and we’re happy to have you as a member.
I just discovered this website and think the tone is just perfect – for me at least. It’s smart, and positive, but not positive in that insane, forced way. I have a million thoughts spinning around in my head about how to be single and this site is helping me to believe I am getting somewhere in understanding it. And it’s making me laugh too – hallelujah for that! I am 38 and have recently moved back to my home town (village) which I really love, but it is super quiet and most of my good friends are now further away. I hope to contribute here…I am generally more of a lurker when it comes to social media etc…but it might be time to jump in and embrace the support that is out there. Thank you Wendy!
A hearty welcome to you Ruth! I’m so happy you find us, and I really hope to hear from you again.