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Party of One
This past Saturday and Sunday, two sets of gracious friends had dinner parties, to which I was invited. It’s lovely to be asked over for home-cooked meals, and I accepted happily. What I didn’t know in advance was that the guest list would be made up entirely of couples, except for me. I’m not saying that had I known about the demographics, I would’ve refused. But it gets tiring two evenings in a row. It takes work to remember that people probably aren’t looking at me with pity, thinking that I’m separate, different, alone. Each night, I returned home well fed. But I was happy to crawl into bed with an adoring dog.
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It IS hard work and they aren’t thinking of us that way. Proof is in the survey I asked a few of my married friends. I’m doing a project for a critical thinking class about this very subject. I am trying very hard to be positive and embrace my single lady status. Why does it have to bother us so much?
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I asked my married/partnered friends if they pay attention to others’ relationship statuses and 62% responded that, No, relationship status doesn’t matter. Being single or married etc. was none of their business and that one should not assume anything. 62% isn’t overwhelming, but I’m glad more than half of my close friends believe that living your life is the key to happiness. On the flip side, my single friends who answered this question 100% responded that they do pay attention to relationship statuses and like to people watch. Are singles constantly on the look out for a partner? Do we make ourselves crazy by dwelling on our relationship status? Do I just have really open-minded non-single friends? (Which is perfect because I *usually* don’t feel like an outcast when we get together!!) This has been an exhausting topic for me and I’m glad I’m almost finished with the semester. I want to be able to enjoy my life and not obsess over singleness…at least not every day.
That’s fascinating, Lauren. I’m going to remember this next time I’m the only single person in a group of couples.
Why is it that there are so many single people like us but we are all surrounded by happy couples???
God is so much cruel .. he just wants to remind us all the time that he didnt create anyone for us but did create the rest of the world in couples??!!
God is really cruel