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In Search of Balance
A or B?
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Both- depending on what mood you catch me in! I get so lonely sometimes and would love a partner who loved me and who I could love back. But I definitely like certain aspects of my life that might have to change and am aware that my family traditions (things my parents and I do when my sister and her husband aren’t around) would also change if I had someone.
It does swing back and forth.
A. But then I just met a guy on POF and while trying to arrange a meeting at a Starbucks, when I told him there are two in Wheaton, he told me I must have read Mapquest wrong. I still met him and even gave him my card, even though there was no attraction. He called me at work and I told him I had a lot going on (my sister had told me a few days earlier that she was diagnosed with Stage 1 breast cancer, right before I left for a 3 day weekend in New Orleans). Instead of expressing any concern, he asks if I intended not to see him and I said I don’t think so. He proceeded to lecture me on giving my card out if I have no intention… I hung up on him. Sorry, I needed to vent.
Wow, Stacy. Sounds like I guy I dated once. I went on two dates with him, he asked to go dutch on the second date and didn’t pay his share, talked incessently about an ex who had clearly moved on as she was married to someone else and then he flipped out when he called me two days later for a third date and I told him I didn’t want to see him anymore and followed it up with an email the next day. I think men have this idea in their heads that women are desperate and will tolerate anything just to be with someone of their gender.
I’ve got a laundry list of those kind of dates. They’re so deflating.
I do despise that attitude that some men have about women…we’re willing to “settle” and put up with boorish behavior just to say we have someone. Better to be by oneself than suffer with some lout.
Do you think this attitude is strictly gender based?
Not at all Wendy. There are many women out there who feel that they’re better off with any man than being alone. They’re terrified of their own company. What I want to know is, what are they afraid of finding out about themselves?
I LOVE this quote from Jean-Paul Sartre:
“If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company.”
Nice quote Wendy!!!
For me, it’s quote A. But only because I won’t settle for the previously-mentioned boor.