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One More Reason to Hate Online Dating
Excerpt from a profile of a man suggested as compatible by Match.com:
Do you consider yourself hot- smart- and fun? Will I be in love with you and think of you as the pretties woman in the room for the next 25 years?
(typo is his)
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tee hee- this made me laugh out loud! there are so many stupid men on online dating sites!
love your site, it gives me hope. keep it up!!
This profile made me wonder if women ever describe themselves as “hot.” Stupid and clueless.
Really awful.
I hadn’t looked at Match in a long time, and I’m not sure what exactly tempted me yesterday. But it didn’t take long to remember why I hate it. I admire those who can stick with it.
I just signed up for Match. I never realized how crazy guys can be when you don’t respond back the same day. They get super neurotic. I am hoping I didn’t make a mistake by getting into this scene.
I wish I had more stamina for it. But I think it’s definitely worth pursuing. I know many friends who’ve met great loves that way.
An online dating site suggested today that my “perfect match” was a heavy smoking high school dropout who was ten years younger than me.
Um. No. Being single is better.
Seriously?!!
It’s scary how many people with online profiles are putting the responsibility for how they feel on potential matches. I’ve got to think that behavior would only skyrocket if one was actually in a relationship with one of these people… Scary. Do not try to make me responsible for how you feel. Grow up.
I’m wary of men with profiles announcing their “integrity.” I’ve got out with a few of those, and that’s the last word I’d use as description.
my rule of thumb is… if you have to make a big giant deal about it in your profile then it’s probably an issue.
When men write on their profile, “no drama” I really get worried.
I’m curious about who might have seriously replied.
If I recall, his photo was pretty good. For some, that could trump what he said – at least for a first date.
I’m not a fan of online dating and this is yet another reason why!
I often cycle back to it (begrudgingly) because it’s been successful for a lot of people.
I’ve gotten back into online dating recently, because quite frankly it’s very difficult to meet other singles otherwise. It doesn’t matter how socially active you are, single people tend to be elusive. The kiddie crowd meets all their boy/girlfriends on Facebook. Everyone uses the internet for this nowadays.
I go on about once a week; I never search profiles; I don’t answer men I’m not attracted to or who have absolutely nothing in common with me; I use a free site so I’m not stuck with a bill and can come and go as I please.
I still meet people offline, but it doesn’t happen nearly as much. I’m also seeing the same flaky, creepy, dishonest goings-on both on and offline, so there’s no difference between the two. When I realized that this is how dating works nowadays, I was shocked. But it’s true. Dating on and offline is no different, save that with online dating, you have to wait to see if you’re genuinely attracted and there’s chemistry. It’s far better to meet offline, but again, that’s becoming a difficult task.
I treat online dating cavalierly. If someone sticks, fine, but if not, I never expected him to. It’s just another way of meeting people, and in our highly techie society, it’s quickly becoming the primary way to do so. Use it sparingly, take breaks, and go forth from there.
If you don’t mind me asking, what site do you use?
LOVE the pouch and need one that says: If NY is my BF, SF is my lova’
Ms M, you must make this pouch!
For sure, SF was once my lova!
Awesome idea!
I’d buy that!
Awful. Just awful.
I don’t think a lot of the men on the dating sites realize that when they write up such horrible profiles, they’re basically announcing to the world exactly WHY they’re still single.
I once came across a profile of a guy who said he was 45 years old with two children from two previous relationships and that he was a “great catch” with “no drama” and “no baggage” and would only consider women who were also great catches with no drama and no baggage. Um….hello, two kids from two previous relationships = “baggage”, and P.S., ANYONE who has reached their 40s has at least SOME baggage, and it probably came by way of “drama”. A lot of these people are not living in the real world.
However, I do know that it has worked for some people. I know two people who have gotten married to someone they met through online dating (one married nine years and the other married seven years), and another friend of mine just got engaged to someone she met on Match last year.
I never look at women’s profiles, but do you think there’s the same percentage of horrible ones?
According to the men I’ve talked to about it, the answer is yes.
I’m not surprised. We humans are all so vulnerable.