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California Dreamin’
Last night, I was tossing and turning and finally fell off to sleep. I dreamt about a man. He was attractive, gracious, funny and really into me. In the dazed few moments immediately after waking up, I thought my dream was a sign. I should check out a few dating sites. Hours later, that impulse waned. Now it feels like someone else’s dream.
Insomnia by Jon Krause
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I dream about my recent ex. It feels bad to wake up from them, but I forget about them as the day wears on.
Yeah, those first few minutes after waking up are our very primitive brain.
Hi, Wendy! I was just looking up your career change website to send a friend anticipating a transition … I noticed your post there that says the only way to win is to STAY IN THE GAME. A parallel to dating, you know? And a nudge to me (and you, perhaps?) to stay in THAT game. Short term pessimism, if necessary, but long term optimism!
Dating and job hunting have many similar components. Urge your friend to get in touch, and I’d be happy to give her my personal overview of career coaching.
Thanks, Wendy! I happily passed along your site. Saw that friend today. She mentioned that she’d written a week plus back and hadn’t heard a reply. I know she’s eager to hear your perspective on whether coaching suits her circumstances.
Thanks for the heads up. We’re in touch!
At 50, I went back on Match.com to dip my toes back in to dating; didn’t have high expectations, and the first few people I thought might be worth meeting, really weren’t – a written profile is so different from an in-person meeting. But then, this last Saturday for coffee, I met Jon. A cancer survivor who is ready to really engage with the world. A quite lovely human being. I don’t yet know if our interests/job schedules line up enough to make a go of a relationship, but hopefully I’ve at least made a friend. So, go ahead, step a toe in.
That’s a great story, Anne. And I really appreciate your encouragment. I’m getting closer…