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Revisiting an Ex
This week, I had dinner with an Ex who was passing through town. We hadn’t laid eyes on each other in at least 15 years. It was interesting to see him now. We’re both so much older. Back in the day, our relationship was mostly good. It might have been the closest I’ve ever gotten to getting married. In my memory of it, I was the one who walked away. Looking back after all these years, I have no regrets.
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Funny timing for this post, Wendy, because I’m heading to a party in a couple weeks where I know I’ll run into an ex I haven’t seen since we broke up. It’s only been a year, but we have had zero contact since, and I’m a bit nervous…
Do you feel like you have a good sense of closure after your reunion?
I wasn’t looking for closure, as it had been so long since we were together. But it felt good to know I’d made the right decision. Good luck with your “reunion” Jess.
I have an ex who I haven’t seen in 15 years. We had intense chemistry when we dated 27 years ago. We saw each other for dinner 15 yrs ago. After dinner we went for a walk and ended up in an embrace. We agreed we still that chemistry. I had to end the evening there before things went further.
I often wonder if we’d have a great relationship if we got together now, or if it’s better as a fantasy. I’m not sure I want the closure yet.
When I’ve connected back with exes (even very passionate ones), I’m always relieved to realize that they weren’t the one.