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Wow–I find these results interesting. Given that this is a blog with a largely female participant roster, I’m wondering if the results reflect social programming?
What do you mean?
That women are somehow more “second class”. Maybe not draw attention to themselves (look at how we’re scrutinized for our dress, for example). That we should be quiet and demure. I don’t know, it was just a thought. I rarely hear a man say “yes, but” after someone compliments him, but I hear women say it all the time (not me, btw!) Kind of how women frequently say “sorry” when there’s no need to say sorry. I see this with my students all the time. The female students apologize for asking me a question (hey, it’s my JOB to help you!) whereas the male students just ask.
I often have the “but” part in my head, but I try to restrain it.