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Does Valentines Day Bother You?
It’s hard for me to remember a time when I got upset about not having a date for Valentines. Do you think the holiday used to hold more sway with the general public, or is it just me that no longer cares?
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I’ve never cared about V-day.
That’s very enlightened. When I was young, it made me sad not to have a date.
When I was younger – in college or just after – I felt more self-conscious being alone on V-day. Now it’s just another day, and most people I know don’t seem to make a big deal of it either. Besides, my furry valentine is a wonderful source of love!
That’s what I’m wondering. Has it faded as a holiday?
All the v-day dates I’ve ever had were lame and disappointing, not memorable at all, so I actually feel better when I don’t have plans.
And it’s a horrible night to go out to eat. I used to work at an upscale restaurant with foodie clientele, and the staff would call Valentines Day, “Amateur Night.”
When I was in my teens and twenties, it probably did bother me a bit when I didn’t have a date (which would’ve been the default). But as I got older, that went away (I became truly aware of what a marketing scheme it really was). And then, in my late thirties, I decided to celebrate it as a day of love for myself! I would buy myself a card, take myself out for a decadent dessert, get myself a present and wrap it, cook something wonderful. Some years I’d bake a layer cake (okay, HALF a layer cake) for myself–always chocolate, but maybe with peanut butter frosting. Occasionally, I’d even celebrate with a single friend. I used it as a reminder that without love of and caring for one’s self, there is really much less to give to anyone else–a lover, a sister, a friend, a stranger, the world.
I love how you celebrate.
Oddly, Valentine’s Day doesn’t bother me nearly as much as spending my birthday or Christmas or New Year’s as a single woman, as I have for the past 20 years. (Not “alone,” necessarily, just “single.”) I view Valentine’s Day as mainly a “Hallmark holiday,” and as other commenters have noted, it’s a really lousy night to go out.
I completely agree, Kay – on Christmas and birthdays, I want company. That’s why I plan ahead to make sure that happens.
Valentines day to me is a celebration of love and my family human and furry ones are my valentines.
I still bake heart cookies to give away and I enjoy that. Its a bit of a pick me up in a dreary season,so I hope it does not fade away.
That’s a kind way of dealing with the holiday, Gigi. Giving to others. Love it!