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Growth Spurts
I was in an anxious mood over the weekend, and it got me to thinking about two of the lowest times of my life. I’m referring to times so foundation-shaking that while they were occurring, I wondered if I was going to make it through. By revisiting the darkness, I wasn’t wallowing. In fact, it was the opposite. I was reminding myself that in both cases, my life prospered in tangible ways having lived through them. It’s a technique I learned from a gifted therapist during one of those times, and she called it “the cushion of experience.”
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Thank you for that post, I am living through one of those moments.
My daughter and I were traveling Saturday morning when we were involved in a serious car accident.
We both suffered injuries and today I go back to the Dr. tomorrow she goes.
We are working through all of this but today I have reached I guess the point of anger in the wheel of emotions.
My sister suggested that I go back to the crash site to help with my fear of driving. I feel nearly paralyzed with fear about driving now, something I loved to do.
I will get through this but today I am really mad at the guy who pulled out in front of us.
Oh, Gigi. I’m so sorry to hear about your accident. In addition to taking care of the physical trauma, are you getting all the emotional support you need?
Well this has been a painful week mentally and physically. Emotions are weird and they are working themselves out.
Something that has helped my emotions is I am enrolling myself and my children in a crash avoidance school at a race track. It’s a Christmas gift for them and me.
It will help me sleep better knowing my kids have the best tools in avoiding a car accident.
And I think I have even found my next car. It’s not the shiny nearly brand new VW that I used to own but a little older VW but it does have a panoramic sunroof which is kind of cool!
Every day now I am really happy my daughter and I are both alive.
Thanks for listening Wendy, Happy Holidays!
You are courageous, Gigi. And taking one step at a time. I’m so grateful you made it through.
Yes. And thank you for this reminder, Wendy!
I post this as a way to remind myself as well!
Wow, this is something I really needed to hear. A lifetime of playing it safe has not served me well (and even led to some of those deep valleys). And now I find myself thinking “if not now, when”. Trying to get past the fear. Thank you for this.
If not now, when – if you could get past the fear, what would be the first thing you’d do?