First Person Singular by Wendy Braitman

He does own a TV.

38 of them describe my husband. I think you’re onto something.

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I’ll make sure to bookmark this list and refer to it if I ever get into a relationship again!

I’d add:
He works out too much.
He wants sex all the time.
He’s critical of everything I do.
He expects me to love his hobbies.
He’s always right.

I really like this blog site, and I even blithely added to the list when it was published. But I was cycling with a man today, and mentioned the list to him, and he said, The only reason he’d need for a woman he’s dating not to be right for him would be that she makes lists like this.
I think the list was started in fun, but I’m rethinking how much fun it is. I think my friend is right, that a real difference between men and women is lists like this.
Reminds me of the joke about how women keep refining their lists of necessary traits, while men just want somebody who likes beer and sex.

In my dating experience, women AND men make lists. (And how lucky to find someone who doesn’t.) The challenge is to leave your list at the door. “94 Reasons…” makes fun of the writer, because it eliminates any mortal man (no hair, too much hair, too big, too small). And the last item, “he’s always complaining” is the ultimate projection.

We went out for a second date and he ate sushi with a fork!

He talks too much.

He doesn’t listen.

He dwells on fancy cars he used to own, big money he used to have.

[from the gay perspective]
He describes himself as ’straight-acting’
He’s married
He got “a kick” out of Sarah Palin
He doesn’t know who the Secretary of State is
He has Celine Dion in his collection

Matty,

Check out this video of James Franco, and you might change your mind about Celine Dion:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v52RJsaoOjk

If James Franco bought me a Celine Dion CD, I’d listen to it.

some additions:
He talks loudly in the theater
He swears in front of the waitress
He doesn’t close the door when he uses your bathroom (we’re talking second date here)

He doesn’t pull up the toilet rim.
Splatter… splatter… splatter…

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A few to add:

He wears his bluetooth headset when he’s not on the phone.
He cares more about his looks than I do.
He’s guileless.

Let me know if you need more; I could keep going.

Ok, one more.

He talks loudly because he wants the table next to us to know how clever he is.

How about – He doesn’t tip enough

how about:
he always has another “important” home remodeling project.
he spends more money on clothes for hobbies than clothes for work.
he owns more pairs of skis than he owns pairs of shoes.
he likes dogs, but not yours.
his hobbies are always more “serious” and “important” than the things you want to do.
if you want to go home early (say: 11 pm) you’re not “supportive” of his friends. (none of who have jobs)

… there are probably more.

He’s an honest-to-goodness sociopath.

He never touches me.

Hmm…how about :

He only says “excuse me” for his bad manners to other people.

Spends too much time on the computer

When you mention how pretty a friend is, he says “God yes, she’s f’in GORGEOUS!”

Wearing a shirt without holes is considered dressing up.

Refuses to go out with you and your friends because he would rather stay home, but than complain if you go out without him.

How about:

He gets threatened and bitter when I talk about cultural stuff (books/films/music) he’s not familiar with.

He interrupts you then when you call him on it says “oh I thought you were finished”
His idea of foreplay is saying “I’m horny”
His friends are all losers
He hasn’t had a full time job in six years
He cleans his teeth in your car and spits out the remains
He’s sarcastic – all the time
He’s grumpy
He’s a pessimist
He’s a misogynist
He can’t go anywhere without a beer in his hand
He doesn’t take care of himself (dentist, brush teeth, etc.)
He doesn’t take care of anything (get oil changed in car etc.)
His car is filthy
He’s defensive
He doesn’t want to do what you like to do, but pouts if you don’t do what he likes

I could go on . . .

He doesn’t respect my kids

He is sarcastic about my religion (while pretending to be tolerant of “all forms of spirituality”)

He is needy

He has a weird/nonexistent relationship with his kid(s)

He eats/drinks less than me and always comments on it

He avoids my family

He is unable to be “unhooked” to his iPod, iPhone, computer

He reads parts of whatever article/book he is reading out loud to me, even if I am reading or talking to someone

He feels insecure about your accomplishments.
He is too sensitive.
He doesn’t love you as much as you love him.
He doesn’t support your dreams/career/ideas.
He insists you both behave like a married couple in front of his married friends and like a casual couple in front of his single friends.

He thinks it is okay (and even cool) to substitute “z” for “s.”

“He has enough good qualities that I have to make up a list to justify to myself that I should leave someone I think is a loser – but upon reflection that just makes me a loser-lover.”

“That he makes me realize that until I choose to be an adult and not seek validation from a man I will always find fault with any man I am with.

[...] first is called “94 Reasons the Man I am Dating isn’t Right for Me“, while the second is a companion list of “94 Reasons Why the Man I Haven’t Met [...]

Obviously you are so picky you’ll never be satisfied. Your genes are going to be selected against and whatever genes make a person so picky will fade out of the human race.

[...] by LILGRL Heh.  I was over at Novaseeker’s new wordpress blog, where I was directed to First Person Singular, to a post which basically lists reasons a guy (any guy) might not be the right guy for the author. [...]

He doesn’t use proper grammar. His words, “I seen this movie last week…” Another one bites the dust. =/

He gave me 2 half-eaten cupcakes for my 30th birthday (we’re no longer together by the way)

He’s constantly working on his fucking lists instead of taking a chance on life ewith me.

pjay, men don’t waste time working on fucking lists, but if you want him to take a chance with you, take note of an example of a man’s list if he could be bothered to write a list of (fuck knows why I am) why the woman he is dating isn’t right for him:

She doesnt blow him.
She doesn’t cook for him
She doesn’t leave him alone to go out with his buds.
She….she…she’s as useful as tits on a bull…NEXT!

How about:

He hasn’t paid taxes in five years;
He doesn’t like my pets, but he has mice in his kitchen;
He has unopened bills from two years ago on his desk;
I got food poisoning from the leftovers in his fridge…I could go on…

He lives with his parents
He’s an alcoholic
He’s a racist
He doesn’t wear deoderant
He makes terrible “jokes” to waitstaff about not leaving a tip
He drives a purple Geo Metro
He doesn’t understand why I was upset at a Holocaust film because “It’s just a movie.”
He smokes with the windows closed
He asks “What songs do The Beatles do?”
He wears sandals in the snow
He asks if I ate fries yesterday too
He can’t get it up
He goes out with his friends on Valentine’s Day
He uses the same drinking glass for weeks and doesn’t wash it
He’s a morning person
He’s never ready on time unless it involves his friends or family
He can’t afford to buy me a birthday present, but he just bought an Xbox
He won’t be my date to weddings
He throws up in my sink even though the toilet is 6 inches away
He sleeps with his back to me
He owns a guitar but doesn’t know how to play it
He won’t go down on me
He scarfs down food like an animal and gets upset that I take at least 30 minutes to finish mine
He rings my doorbell from 2am-6am on New Year’s Day

There are so many more, but I’d be here all day!

I’m hoping these are all exes… what incentive do these people have to change if you just put up with it? Do they have ANY good qualities?

In my case Franco, these are all exes. And I don’t put up with it, therefore I am single.

He’s too close with his ex-wife !!!

He expects you to pay for everything
He doesn’t speak to his mother and won’t explain why
He is always picking something on his arms
He boasts about being a slacker
He will only vacation to the same place every year
He is only affectionate when he’s drunk
He eats so fast and then burps all night
He doesn’t ‘get’ movies that are not obvious
He does stupid things in the gym and then wonders why he can’t move his back
He hates dogs
He uses a plastic grocery bag for garbage that sits on the floor
He never introduces you to people you meet up with unexpectedly

He owns a small dog who wears a “manly” argyle sweater.